Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Decluttering, Part 2 -- Frogs

 


Anyone who’s ever visited my house knows that I have thing about frogs. I guess you could call it a collection – that sounds much better than “obsession” or “addiction.”

I have frogs all over the place, literally in every room of the house. I have semi-useful items such as frog towels, frog soap dishes, frog wind chimes, frog candlesticks, frog napkin holders, etc. The majority of my frogs are decorative pieces. I have some elegant examples in ceramic, wood, pewter and glass. I have some pitifully cheap ones in plastic and even paper. I have lots of  toy frogs, including some satin ballerina frogs, and some bean-bag frogs. There are even a few that I stitched myself. 

Pride of place goes to two plush frogs. One is Ferrington, my very first frog, who was a Christmas gift the year I turned nine years old. Ferrington went with me to summer camp, to Japan (where I was an exchange student for a summer), to college, and even into my adult homes. I knew my John was a keeper when he respectfully hopped Ferrington off the bed. The other plush frog is Fred. He’s a replica of Ferrington, but much larger. Fred was a gift to my big sister Helen from her high school boyfriend. Apparently she thought I would enjoy this giant stuffed frog more than she did. Or more than she enjoyed that boyfriend, for that matter.

I also have a shadow box with about 60 tiny frogs on it. I knew my new cleaning lady was a keeper when she -- on her own initiative -- took the time to dust every one of those little guys. She was very relieved when I told her she never had to do that again.

Over the years, I have purchased many of my frogs. I can hardly resist a cute or interesting frog that’s not grossly expensive. My friends and family realized early on that they could always count on my effusive gratitude for a frog gift. Their shopping was always a no-brainer, and my collection has been enhanced by my friends’ generosity.

I mention all this because as I prepare to declutter and downsize, I am a little distraught about what to do with my frog friends. I love them all, and it pains me to think of getting rid of a single one.

As we think about a new place to live, we’ll have to consider proper places for the frogs. When we eventually move, we’ll have to carefully pack everyone up for the journey.

And then there’s the problem of the ultimate disposition of my frogs. Should I give them away to friends and family in advance? Do I put them in my will? Do I leave behind a mandate about how the frogs will be cared for in perpetuity? I fear my children do not have the depth of feeling for the frogs that would lead them to love them appropriately. 

In short, I struggle with what will happen to my frogs when I croak.